Well...I figured I should write on my blog that I got engaged last Friday night. Also, I figured it would be good to talk about how I did it. So, here it is.
A couple weekends ago, I made plans with Julie's dad to talk to him about marrying her. I had jury duty on the 27th (a Tuesday, the day after Memorial Day). So, since I figured I might be selected, I would have to meet with him on Saturday morning. He was going to be in Santa Rosa for a meeting anyway, so it would work out fine.
On Monday, the 26th, Julie moved to Santa Rosa. On Tuesday, the 27th, I reported for jury duty, and got out of it. It was a 3-week trial for statutory rape. Over a year and a half period, the man allegedly had sex with a girl under 14 years old at least 3 times.
So it, was going to be a long trial, and I managed to be excused. I drove to Julie's apartment, and thought that it would be good to talk to her dad earlier than Saturday so I could propose on Friday when she wasn't expecting it.
I talked myself out of it, then that night, I wanted to again. Wednesday I woke up and thought I didn't really need to rush it, especially since when I called to check on our ring, they told me it might not be ready until Saturday.
Wednesday night, I really wanted to propose on Friday, so I asked my sister for ideas. We checked
citysearch.com for "romantic dining" and found a restaurant called
Cityscape in San Francisco.
Thursday, I woke up and called Julie's dad. He agreed to meet in Fairfield on Friday morning. Fairfield is about halfway between Santa Rosa and Woodland, where Julie's parents live. That afternoon, I got a call that the ring was ready. I spent the evening lying to Julie about my proposal plans and also mixing some truth in. We talked about my lack of skill as a liar. Little did she know how good I was getting at it. I pretty much told her my whole plan mixed in with other things, and she didn't suspect it that much.
So, on Friday morning, while I was "sleeping in" I went to Fairfield. Julie's dad wasn't even thinking of the fact that Julie's first house was in Fairfield when he chose the meeting place. So, he got to drive past her childhood home and sit outside before we met. That was really cool that he got to do that.
After we talked, I drove back to Santa Rosa and picked up the ring. She had a temp job for the day, so we headed down to the city right after she got off work.
On the way down I told her I was nervous about talking to her dad the next morning and asked her what she thought we should talk about. This was the best lie I told in the whole thing.
We got to Cityscape while it was still light out. Julie loves tall buildings, cities, and overcast weather. Check out how great it was.

This was the view of downtown. That is the Bank of America building all the way at the left. We could see all the way over to Coit Tower, and my view was mostly to the southeast, so I could see the Giant's stadium, where there was a game. I joked that it was like being at Applebee's--I could pretend to listen to her while I watched the game.

When I made the reservation, I told them that I would be proposing after dinner and would like a window seat to set the mood. They threw in a little extra and seated us at a table (table 17) with a "broken light."
A waiter came out as it was getting dark and said, "Your light is out, so here are some candles so you can see."
Julie said, "You planned that, right?" and smiled.
The waiter got a bit nervous and left. I think he thought he gave away the surprise.
Obviously they planned to have the light out. A nice restaurant would never seat guests at a table with a broken light. The ceilings are 20 feet, so either they have individual switches, went through a lot of work to turn out our light, or only seat special requests at that table.
At dinner I told Julie that the whole point of this date was to get back into being able to go on dates often and start off with a bang. So I had a decent excuse for having an expensive date.
The food was pretty good, and the view was great. I hadn't figured out how to propose yet. I left the ring in my jacket pocket in the trunk, along with a boquet of flowers. I was planning on getting my jacket when we got out at either the Treasure Island lookout or at the Marin County side of the Golden Gate Bridge. We had been both places on the way back from the airport back when we were long distance (the season which so far has constituted the vast majority of our relationship).
But right before we left, I realized that the restaurant was only a few blocks from Union Square, and when we were up there, I could see the square and thought it would be a great place to propose.
So, after dinner, I called my parents and asked if the square was nice at night while Julie went into the bathroom to change out of her dress into something warmer. They thought I should just drive by it and decide. I was planning on doing that anyway, so that's what we did.
We got out to the parking lot and I pulled the flowers out of the trunk and gave them to her before we drove to the square.

As we drove, I said, "Remember how I told you that I always wanted to be romantic and now that I have you I finally can be? Well I don't feel like I've done a very good job while we've been apart, so I am really excited to be able to start doing that again." That statement is entirely true, but it also is a great excuse for me being so over the top, and to limit her suspicion that I would propose.
We drove past the square and I saw the red heart from the old "Hearts in San Francisco" art project. The square was pretty empty, and I knew it was the place. We parked and got out. I didn't know which corner the heart was on, so we walked to the middle of the park. I thought about how marriage is a union, and how it was Union Square.
I found the heart, and we walked toward it. I pretended to be surprised the heart was there. There was a man playing saxophone across the street, in front of the Disney Store. Julie loves the saxophone. She plays it.
The saxophone is my least favorite instrument.
I told Julie to stand by the heart so I could take a picture. I told her that I needed to back up to get the heart in the shot. I turned around to walk farther back, and pulled the ring box out while I was facing the other way.
I turned back towards her and took this picture. She said she tried to make a bad face because she hates it when I take pictures of her by herself when I should be in them. Of course, I would never take a picture of her by herself in front of a heart. But she didn't have time to think about that.

Even though that's not a very good picture, we have to keep it and share it with friends, because that was just seconds before I asked her to marry me. I walked towards her as if to show her the picture. I was holding the ring box in the other hand. I knelt down and said, "Julie will you marry me?"
Her first reaction was, "Shut up. There is no way."
Then, "Did you ask my dad?"
"Yes."
"When?"
"This morning." I was smiling ear-to-ear the whole time.
She pulled me to my feet and said, "Absolutely yes."
I put the ring on her finger, and then we took some pictures by the heart. They didn't come out great, but we kept them anyway.

Afterwards, we headed back over the Golden Gate Bridge to the north lookout. I told her what I talked to her dad about and how I planned the parts I planned, and how I did so much of it spontaneously, which I am quite proud of. While we were there, the Giants' game finally ended, and a fireworks show started. From where we were, the city skyline blocked some of the fireworks, so we got a silhouette of the city with a fireworks backdrop. The fog blocked the top half of the really huge explosions. It was a perfect San Francisco ending to our night.
One of the little great things is that the next day I found out how the game ended. The Giants lost in extra innings, which is why the fireworks show happened right when it happened (while we were watching). And in the seventh inning, the Giants pulled off a triple play. That is one of the rarest plays in sports. The Giants have only had 7 of them since they moved to San Francisco in 1954. So, the triple play affected the outcome of the game, and helped send it to extra innings, which delayed the fireworks until just as we were watching the SF skyline.
I was telling my friend Craig about all of that, and he said, "That just confirms that God is in this when you see all these little things lining up so perfectly." I hadn't really thought about that, but yeah it does. I love it. I love God so much. And I love Julie so much too.